Throwback Thursday with Paul J. Meyer

 

Create Momentum in 3 Minutes Flat

 By Jeanna Gabellini | August 03, 2018 

    It's common to experience fulfillment in some areas of your life while feeling like you're backpedaling in another area. Have no fear, if you want to move forward in that one area. Here's something you can do right now. Seize the moment! It'll only take about one minute longer than it takes for you to read this article. Bring to mind the optimal outcome you want. Just spend a moment articulating, in one or two sentences, the end result. For example, "I found my perfect house on the water and the financing easily fell into place." Notice I put this in past tense, as if it already happened. Now, what can you find that's working well about the current situation? What can you appreciate? I began looking for a house before my financing was in place and before my mate was on board with this goal. It looked like an impossible dream at the time. 

    When I was house hunting, I focused appreciation toward my realtor, who was patient, enthusiastic, and compassionate. I appreciated that many people gave me creative ideas for my financing. Every house gave me a new design or decorating idea. Make the obstacles less significant. Remember that no matter what aggravating evidence is revealed to make it look like your goal is being stomped on by the Universe, don't give it too much attention. You'll always find a way to get your outcome if you release the obstacles as relevant. Whenever I found a house that piqued my interest, either the price tag was several hundred thousand above my budget, the view was the size of a postage stamp, or my mate would find something wrong with the deal. I kept holding out that the Universe would find a way to bring together all the pieces in an ideal way. When you're not feeling inspired or ease around the goal, stop all action and attention to it. 

    This is the time to go get involved in the areas of your life that are working well. Trust me, you will not benefit from trying to make something happen when you are feeling agitated. Even if the area you need movement in is finances. Your finances can't improve when you've got your panties in a wad about them. You're only a vibrational match to trickles of income when your attitude is in the dumps. Every moment is an opportunity to acknowledge that there are good things happening in your life. There might only be one or two things you can find that seem to be okay. Give some energy there. You're always in transition, and this moment is only temporary. The good stuff is coming, but you have to chill out in the meantime. 

Don't Determine What's Possible For You Based On Where Your Life Is Right Now

 By Tony Fahkry | April 22, 2020 

    Judging Your Life Doesn't Help You: I want you to reflect on what is working favorably in your life right now? Is it your relationships, finances, health, family, career, etc? Now, think about what is not working for you? What area of your life could be improved? Let's set aside the current circumstances regarding the Coronavirus pandemic because we have little control in what happens. But I invite you to examine the various aspects of your life, to see how you could improve it. We mustn't think our life isn't working based on where we are right now. Sometimes, our current situation may be a transition for the next phase of our life. Life is constantly evolving. Judging our current circumstances is like taking a photograph of someone, believing that is how they will look their entire life. Moreover, you keep looking at the photograph over the years, thinking the person is still the same. But this is wishful thinking, since they will have matured, changed the color of their hair, perhaps lost weight or changed other aspects of their appearance. What I'm saying is: if we judge our life based on a snapshot of where we are, we miss out on what is yet to unfold. Are you comfortable with this idea that your life is constantly evolving? 

    It would be remiss of you to decide what isn't possible based on what is lacking or not working. I hope you get the impression that judging your life doesn't help you get to the next chapter, but keeps you stuck in your current predicament. Naturally, we evaluate life through the lens of disappointment and discouragement. Many people do this because they want to fix what isn't working. But what if your life isn't broken and you are judging it unfairly? That is to say, perhaps the pieces of your life are still coming together and look disjointed because the entire picture is not complete? Anything Is Possible For You What we ought to do is work towards how our life should look, knowing the pieces may not fit, since it is still coming together. Is this beginning to make sense, where judging your life is pointless because life is constantly flowing through us like a stream. The Greek philosopher Heraclitus said: "No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man." He was referring to the ever-changing speed at which our life ebbs and flows. What we are certain of today may be irrelevant tomorrow. This is evident right now regarding the Coronavirus. Scientists and infectious disease experts are only certain of the data today because things aren't changing at an ever-increasing rate. And so it is with your life. 

    Things may appear to be working against you today, and suddenly everything can fall into place tomorrow. It is when we look back on our life, we can see that our failures and mistakes had to happen, to bring us to where we are today. Anything is possible for you, as long as you continue moving forward and not give up hope of a better future. If you give up, you stop taking risks and settle for what you've got. Unfortunate things happen to people every day. They can cause setbacks and frustration because we believe we are not making progress. But these thoughts are an illusion, contrived by the egoic mind to protect us from getting hurt. But ask any successful person and they will tell you, some of the best things that happened to them, came out of nowhere. They occurred when they least expect it, while pursuing their goals and dreams. 

    With this in mind, I'd like you to draw up on a piece of paper or your phone, three columns with the headings: What Is Working for Me and What Is Not Working for Me. In the third column write: What Is The Lesson? Take some time to work through the questions I asked you at the beginning of the article, regarding what is working for you and against you. This will give you a sense of how your life is tracking and whether you need to intervene. Sometimes, interfering in our life is like throwing a stone into a serene pond which disturbs the pristine water. Instead, allow life to organize itself around you and through you, to bring you what you need at the right time. After all, if we determine what is possible based on where we are, we miss out on the potential for life to deliver what we need, when we least expect it. Do you want to lead a remarkable life? Are you committed to taking action despite your fears and doubts? 

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How To Use Your Time To Create The Life You Want

 By Carmen Gilfillan | July 02, 2019 

    How you use your time is just one of the variables to success. I'm not talking about the passage of time because time just is. It's what you do with the time that you have that matters. One of the secrets to success is knowing how much time to spend on the right things at the right time in the right order to get the results you want in your life. We have so many distractions these days that it's so easy to be swayed off course. So how do you know when you're using your time effectively and when you're not? 

1. Get the Balance Right It's all about balance. If you feel you're working too slowly, how can you speed up such that you're still fully present with the task at hand, you're minimizing errors and you're in that alpha brainwave state (where you're fully absorbed in what you're doing)? If work is coming in at a faster pace than your working pace you know you need to reduce the time you're spending on tasks or increase your pace. If you're rushing around in a state of unhealthy stress (yes there is healthy stress... it's called moderate pressure!) what do you need to do to slow down and bring a sense of calmness and balance back into your being? If you're being drawn away from what you're doing by social media and time is just passing you by, what strategies and stops do you need to put in place to ensure that you minimize those distractions? It's all about finding that fine line between speed and pace, between stress and pressure, between distraction and taking a break. How you view what you're engaged in at any point in time is key to how successfully you do what you do. It's about gaining that clarity in your mind. 

    For example if you feel your pace is too slow or to fast on a particular day and you've got a long list of tasks to accomplish that day, get clear about why your pace is the way it is. Look back at what you were doing yesterday. Did you have a full-on day yesterday, or was your day too easy? In which case should you have scheduled in a lighter day today or a more active one? How did you sleep last night? If you spent the night tossing and turning and hardly slept that might be a clue that maybe your body just needs rest today. If you slept soundly last night this is going to contribute to an extra boost of energy for you. Look at what you've been eating over the last few days. If it's empty calories that give you the feeling of fullness but lack nourishment, this is going to drain your energy levels. If, however, you've been taking in food and drink packed with E numbers you may find yourself bouncing off the walls. All of these aspects are going to have an impact on the time you spend, so planning your days effectively taking account of your energy levels is crucial. 

    2. Understand How You Respond Another indicator as to whether your life is working for you time wise is how well you're moving towards what you want in life. A measure of this is how you're responding at the end of each day to what you've achieved... or not. If you feel disappointed because once again you've not accomplished what you wanted to achieve, perhaps it's because once again you've unrealistically tried to fit too many tasks into one day. By asking yourself certain questions about the activities you undertake will begin to give you an understanding of how well you're using your time. Do you feel your task is too big, too small, too boring? Maybe you're unclear on exactly what it is you need to do. Perhaps you lack clarity on how you're going to do what it is you want to do. 

    3. Prioritize Your Activities Maybe what's needed is some time to clearly define your activity, why you're doing it and to work out a simple strategy that will at least get you moving. Sometimes when you take a few moments to take just these simple steps, your energy levels begin to stabilize because confusion, frustration and uncertainty begin to wane. Taking some time to simply prioritize your tasks according to their level of importance, timing each one and deciding when you are going to tackle each is an amazingly freeing activity on a mental level that will begin to move you forward. Adopting this more practical approach will also help you to learn more about how you naturally work, and to work in accordance with this. 

    4. Get Clear on Your Outcomes The clearer you can be about your desired achievements, the more constructively you'll find yourself using your time. How to do this is relatively simple: Get really clear on exactly what you want to achieve Map out your strategy for getting there Break your project down into prioritized and timed phases and tasks Get to work! Evaluate on an ongoing basis what's working and what's not Make the necessary adjustments along the way Stay open-minded to what success will look like Keep going until you get to where you want to go (or to the closest version of it) Rinse and repeat It's a simple system, but it's not necessarily easy, and a key part of this is how you use the time at your disposal to get to your outcome. When you begin to use your time more effectively by following the strategies above, you can begin to achieve the exact outcomes you want to manifest, and from there start to carve out the exact life you want to live. 

    Carmen Gilfillan is the founder of Stimulus Development & Training. Stimulus specializes in helping people overcome emotional trauma, experience emotional breakthroughs and live their best lives. We do this through Life & Wellness Coaching, Emotional Freedom consultations and training in the areas of personal, professional and spiritual growth. Check out our website at http://www.stimulus.uk.com to book your free Emotional Breakthrough consultation. 

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What's Your Secret Weapon Against Overwhelm? Your Time Energy

 

By Paula Eder | November 10, 2019 

    Isn't it wonderful when you're in the flow? Work is a breeze, and nothing fazes you. You stay clear and focused. Your alertness helps you respond to setbacks and surprises without being thrown off course. But then, there are those other days... sometimes lots of them! You're so tired. You're cranky and feel caged in, and whenever you embark on a task, it feels like you need way more time than you have! (That's because when you're overwrought and out of sync, projects get snarled, taking you twice as long.) What If You Possessed a Secret Weapon Against Overwhelm? Imagine turning any "off" day into "on" day - moving in harmony with time and releasing overwhelm! You know deep in your heart that there must be something you can do - but what? 

    Well, I have developed an approach that I'd like to share with you. The good news is, you already have a secret weapon against overwhelm, and all you have to do is tap into it! It's like an electrical current, and I call it Time Energy™. Time Energy - 5 Phenomenal Facts About Your Inner Powerhouse When you realize just how groundbreaking this approach is, I believe you'll agree: Its potential is nothing short of life-changing! 

    1. This energy is all yours. Time Energy is you, harnessing your power to make the most of your moments. It's refreshed and revitalized, like a rechargeable battery, by each resourceful and decisive time choice you make. 

    2. It is inexhaustible. In the same way that you can't run out of wisdom, the flow of your Time Energy is never-ending. 

    3. It grows as you use it. As with wisdom, the more frequently you draw on your Time Energy to empower yourself and make sound choices, the stronger it gets. What I call Time Energy is a constellation of disciplines, insights and strengths that evolve, broaden, and deepen as often as you use them. Do you see the potential? 

    4. This energy is about synergy. Your Time Energy amplifies as you coordinate your skills, experience, and wisdom. Think of muscles that work in unison to power you forward. As you strengthen each muscle in relation to the others, your capacity grows exponentially! By bolstering each link, you create a sturdy chain. (And how you identify the spots in need of some firming up is a topic we'll explore down the road.) 

    5. Abundant energy requires abundance thinking. When your energy deflates like a punctured beach ball, view that, not as a problem but as a cue! It tells you that you're temporarily locked into scarcity thinking. And the way out it to look within. With practice, you'll be able to simply say, "I choose Time Energy" like a mantra to quickly access your powerful and abundant inner reserves. Notice how you feel whenever you're in the flow. Welcome this energy like the good friend that it is. 

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3 Keys To Living With Unlimited Potential

 By Chio Ugochukwu  |  January 22, 2021

    Do you know that you have the potential to do anything you want to do? The big challenge you have is having the ability to make better decisions based on the resources that you have. You have all the resources you require to get the most of your talents every day. Don't allow your daily challenges and obstacles prevent you from seeking to achieve unlimited potential in your daily life. Anything is a possibility if you are committed to achieving it. Here are 3 keys to living with unlimited potential. The first key to living with unlimited potential is to remember that you may not always be successful in everything you have attempted. What does this mean? It means that if you truly want to live with unlimited potential, you cannot quit simply because you did not get the results that you desired in your first attempt. 

    Do you know how many attempts it the first solider to win Miss USA to succeed? It her took 7 attempts. Do you think she would have achieved her potential if she had quit the 3rd time she failed or lost in the competition. The second key to living with unlimited potential is that you tune out the noise. Others will judge and tell you that you cannot succeed. They will underestimate your potential and discourage you from striving to achieve potential. Focus on improving yourself every day and taking the action that will you to become a better version of yourself. You have to learn to strive to do your best without expecting others to support you or tell you that you have the resources and mindset to live with unlimited potential. 

    This is part of the process of relentless self-mastery. The third key to living with unlimited potential is to work hard to cultivate your natural talents and avoid taking them for granted. If you have a job interview, get ready for it. Don't assume that because you got the best result in school and that you are very good at public seeking that you will do well in your job interview. You might be the best qualified candidate and still fail to get the job. Don't get discouraged. Focus on cultivating your talents and getting better. Remember that the more you develop and use your skills, the better the results you will get. You have apply yourself to grow your talents every day. Unapplied talent leads to drainage of your potential. Remember that life is too short to settle for less than you are capable of achieving.

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If You Really Want to Be Happy, There Is Only ONE THING You Need!

 By Niti Krishnakumar | January 24, 2021 

    Good news everybody - finally discovered the code to unending everlasting happiness. Trust me, I am not going to quote from any book because I received this revelation from Heaven this morning and I am bursting forth with joy on having discovered this secret that the entire human race has been vociferously trying to decode since centuries. I am getting your hopes up and building to this point of 'I can't wait to know this' because the discovery will help you live a super happy life from this moment on. Just the discovery is enough to set you free. So let's cut to the chase - what is that one thing that we all need? Hmm, if I put the answer to you directly in two words, you may miss it. So I will give you many situations in your daily life that usually unsettle you and give you the answer for what could be done to improve it and this will bring you to the answer. But, the answer to each situation will only be a partial answer and you will have to put these traits together to reach the final answer! 

    Situation 1: It's time for breakfast and you are hungry. There's no one in the kitchen and nobody has ordered any food. You call out to your mom, wife, cook and you can't hear them respond to your call. You are frustrated and you want to yell louder when you hear your stomach growl loudly and you feel dissipated. "What can I do? I am so hungry I could eat a wolf and there's no one to see how distressed I am." 

    Response 1: I am going to order something fast. 

    Response 2: I am going to cook some light meal to hold on for now. 

    Response 3: I am going to binge on snacks 

    Let's say you chose response 3. It's easy and off-the-shelf. Moreover, it gave you some empty calories. You could have made some oatmeal or eaten salad instead. But you chose the snack as your panacea. Consequences of your decision: In all likelihood, you will be angrier than you were before. Because junk food makes one a freak junkie. All this unwanted food is making your body spin in the wrong direction. So you are losing your sense of propriety and you feel you are the boss and you can call all the shots. So you decide to behave with your family rashly. You get corny and apathetic. You can't listen to what they have to say. You look tough and you become insensitive. You have wasted your morning. Frustrating indeed? I am hinting that the situation could have been handled better. You could have had a better response to the situation and you could have enjoyed the moment if you only knew how to make it work for you. Clearly your appetite for food was hard to control because your body was stronger than your spirit. We know that we can go without food for many days and not having food for a few hours is actually good for your health. You could have waited or tried to find out what was the hold-up. But something kept you in a place of bondage. Let's examine the next situation. 

    Situation 2: "My dog is not well. He's been sneezing and looking for cover. Probably, he's felling cold." So you pull a blanket over him. He feels cozy and stops sneezing. Then he goes to sleep and wakes up fit and fine. Congrats! You did well to sense what the dog needed and provided it. So you were able to enjoy the moment knowing that you wouldn't have to rush about taking him to the vet or driving him to another vet and so on. This is the comfortable place we want to be in. When we can have some control over the situations of our life without feeling helpless and outdone. These are precious moments that help us feel sane and glad to be alive. When things go well, it is time to relax and when things seem to go downhill, they can make us nervous. So how do we embrace success every time? What if I hadn't sensed the situation carefully and failed to provide an answer? The situation could have been worse and my day wouldn't have been well-spent. Let's take a new situation where things could go terribly wrong. 

    Situation 3: The fan is not working because the power went and it's hot. "I can't work and meet my deadline." So I ask my daughter to fan me with a piece of cardboard or a hand fan if she can find it. She refuses. It is a hot situation. You have work that should've been finished by now. What's the best way forward? Life is made up of trying situations such as the above. There's too little time even to vent your anger. What if the person dismisses you as absurd and irrelevant? There are many things that go wrong in life. I can list many more situations when we wish we had some more patience, some more time to think and even knowledge to take the right course of action that we would not regret. The fun is doing life when everything is bound to go wrong; being persistent and sticking with what you believe, and being convinced that this is the way forward. "What relief! At least I can be confident that I am on the right track!" Just to know is half-deliverance and the rest is getting up to speed and doing it. If you are really convinced, it is easier to execute personal well-being (sorry, these are not the two magic words). 

    The magic words are "GOOD CHARACTER". In all the three cases, we responded according to our character. Our response to everything that happens to us is determined largely by our character. If you invest in building a great character where you are not easily annoyed or put off by other's mannerisms and behaviors, are forgiving and tolerant, adjusting and accommodating, even loving, you will certainly enjoy a great life. Indeed everyone sets out in life thinking money is the solution to all the problems they face but that is not true. If you have what you need for sustenance, you are blessed to have a great life because blessings come to those who have a great nature. You will be far more productive in any field of work and you will be respected and influential. You will gain favor from everyone for being a simple yet caring person without any airs. 

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