By Niti Krishnakumar | January 24, 2021
Good news everybody - finally discovered the code to unending everlasting happiness. Trust me, I am not going to quote from any book because I received this revelation from Heaven this morning and I am bursting forth with joy on having discovered this secret that the entire human race has been vociferously trying to decode since centuries. I am getting your hopes up and building to this point of 'I can't wait to know this' because the discovery will help you live a super happy life from this moment on. Just the discovery is enough to set you free. So let's cut to the chase - what is that one thing that we all need? Hmm, if I put the answer to you directly in two words, you may miss it. So I will give you many situations in your daily life that usually unsettle you and give you the answer for what could be done to improve it and this will bring you to the answer. But, the answer to each situation will only be a partial answer and you will have to put these traits together to reach the final answer!
Situation 1: It's time for breakfast and you are hungry. There's no one in the kitchen and nobody has ordered any food. You call out to your mom, wife, cook and you can't hear them respond to your call. You are frustrated and you want to yell louder when you hear your stomach growl loudly and you feel dissipated. "What can I do? I am so hungry I could eat a wolf and there's no one to see how distressed I am."
Response 1: I am going to order something fast.
Response 2: I am going to cook some light meal to hold on for now.
Response 3: I am going to binge on snacks
Let's say you chose response 3. It's easy and off-the-shelf. Moreover, it gave you some empty calories. You could have made some oatmeal or eaten salad instead. But you chose the snack as your panacea. Consequences of your decision: In all likelihood, you will be angrier than you were before. Because junk food makes one a freak junkie. All this unwanted food is making your body spin in the wrong direction. So you are losing your sense of propriety and you feel you are the boss and you can call all the shots. So you decide to behave with your family rashly. You get corny and apathetic. You can't listen to what they have to say. You look tough and you become insensitive. You have wasted your morning. Frustrating indeed? I am hinting that the situation could have been handled better. You could have had a better response to the situation and you could have enjoyed the moment if you only knew how to make it work for you. Clearly your appetite for food was hard to control because your body was stronger than your spirit. We know that we can go without food for many days and not having food for a few hours is actually good for your health. You could have waited or tried to find out what was the hold-up. But something kept you in a place of bondage. Let's examine the next situation.
Situation 2: "My dog is not well. He's been sneezing and looking for cover. Probably, he's felling cold." So you pull a blanket over him. He feels cozy and stops sneezing. Then he goes to sleep and wakes up fit and fine. Congrats! You did well to sense what the dog needed and provided it. So you were able to enjoy the moment knowing that you wouldn't have to rush about taking him to the vet or driving him to another vet and so on. This is the comfortable place we want to be in. When we can have some control over the situations of our life without feeling helpless and outdone. These are precious moments that help us feel sane and glad to be alive. When things go well, it is time to relax and when things seem to go downhill, they can make us nervous. So how do we embrace success every time? What if I hadn't sensed the situation carefully and failed to provide an answer? The situation could have been worse and my day wouldn't have been well-spent. Let's take a new situation where things could go terribly wrong.
Situation 3: The fan is not working because the power went and it's hot. "I can't work and meet my deadline." So I ask my daughter to fan me with a piece of cardboard or a hand fan if she can find it. She refuses. It is a hot situation. You have work that should've been finished by now. What's the best way forward? Life is made up of trying situations such as the above. There's too little time even to vent your anger. What if the person dismisses you as absurd and irrelevant? There are many things that go wrong in life. I can list many more situations when we wish we had some more patience, some more time to think and even knowledge to take the right course of action that we would not regret. The fun is doing life when everything is bound to go wrong; being persistent and sticking with what you believe, and being convinced that this is the way forward. "What relief! At least I can be confident that I am on the right track!" Just to know is half-deliverance and the rest is getting up to speed and doing it. If you are really convinced, it is easier to execute personal well-being (sorry, these are not the two magic words).
The magic words are "GOOD CHARACTER". In all the three cases, we responded according to our character. Our response to everything that happens to us is determined largely by our character. If you invest in building a great character where you are not easily annoyed or put off by other's mannerisms and behaviors, are forgiving and tolerant, adjusting and accommodating, even loving, you will certainly enjoy a great life. Indeed everyone sets out in life thinking money is the solution to all the problems they face but that is not true. If you have what you need for sustenance, you are blessed to have a great life because blessings come to those who have a great nature. You will be far more productive in any field of work and you will be respected and influential. You will gain favor from everyone for being a simple yet caring person without any airs.
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